Finding Love and Family

I grew up in a broken family, but not in the sense that might usually first come into mind. There was love and good intentions all around, but relationships were fragile. It seems like no one in my family knew how to express themselves or show their love and pride for one another. Hugs and kisses were rare. There was a 10 year period during most of my childhood that I never once saw my cousins and only saw my aunt and uncle about three times total. I didn't realize it at the time, but it has definitely had a profound effect on how I go about my life now. Since I've been out on my own, I find that the further I am from some family members, the happier I am. It's not that I don't care about my family, but because they were so distant throughout my childhood. I've always felt like I don't quite fit in with my family, almost like I'm the black sheep, because I wanted more hugs. It seems strange, but growing up without hugs or not saying "I love you" every night had a definitely impact on my relationships today. I love to fix things with my family and to get us close again. I want nothing more than to have a tight-knit family that hugs and sees each other more than once or twice a year, if that. But it seems like every time I try to meet up with family members or plan something, it does nothing but tear us even further apart.

However, recently I have been "adopted" into another family in Newark, NY and they have been showing me the type of family that I want. The love they share for each other is obvious everyday, and I hope to someday have my own family like that. For now though, I just want to say thanks Mum and Dad for showing me so much and adopting me into your family. It means a lot to me to finally have someone I can call Dad, and to finally feel like I truly "belong" someplace.

Another Post About Osama bin Laden

Last week the United States celebrated a huge victory in the current war against terrorist group Al-Qaeda. There has been little else in the news all across the nation. As a member of the military, hearing the news that Osama bin Laden has finally been killed means a multitude of emotions. Much like the victims of the 9/11 attacks, the news became bittersweet. Justice has finally been served for all those people that were killed so tragically. However, even though bin Laden was the mastermind behind the attacks and the leader of Al-Qaeda, his death does not mean the end of the wars.

There are so many other factors in this war that I fear many Americans may not be aware of due to the lack of substantial coverage on the news. National news filters the war and many firefights and deaths are not reported. Osama bin Laden was the figurehead leader of Al-Qaeda, but Al-Qaeda has many other leaders and there were several clues that more terror attacks on American were in the planning stages at bin Laden’s hideout in Pakistan. Al-Qaeda is still a threat to the United States, and troops overseas now are in as much danger now as they ever were during a deployment. The biggest fear right now is a retaliation attack on U.S. forces overseas, or even on our homeland. America is on guard, but we as a country have bonded together once again. The death of Osama bin Laden has also raised our hopes for the end of the war, but we must keep our guard up and not get complacent. We have gone this far, now we must see this war all the way through until it is safe enough that all of our troops can come home safely.

Inspiration Writing

Recently I began following author Nicholas Sparks on Twitter (@SparksNicholas). He tweets a lot about his progress on writing his next novel, scheduled for release in the fall and called The Best of Me. I was late getting into Nicholas Spark’s writings and have only read two of his stories (Dear John and The Last Song), but I am absolutely hooked. I also realized that I have a similar writing style, in that I love writing fiction novels that have some kind of tragedy in them.  I’ve had a manuscript written in my notebook for about a year now. I had started writing this story even before I first picked up Dear John and even though mine is not a love story, I immediately realized that I do have a similar writing style to Nicholas Sparks. I firmly believe though that he is better with words. I sometimes have to think for hours and re-write a quote many times before I feel that it is perfect. Even then, it’s not nearly as a good as something like, “It’s like the wind – I can’t see it, but I can feel it” from A Walk To Remember.

Since following Nicholas Sparks, not only do I want to read the rest of his books now, but I am also more inspired and ready than ever to get back to work on my own manuscript and take the steps necessary to get a publisher. I want nothing more than to be a published author.

It’s funny when I think about it now. I was so late in discovering the amazing stories written by Nicholas Sparks because I was more interested in reading about military history and war stories. I am still passionate about the military, but reading that first Nicholas Sparks book opened me up to a new release. His books are easy to read, which makes it very easy to lose yourself in the world of the characters.  I especially found that with Dear John because of my own military experience, but it was the same thing The Last Song. I look forward to getting lost in the next Nicholas Sparks book I read, whichever one I decide on when I can finally catch up on all of my reading and get myself a new book.

Proud Accomplishments, Strong Support

Last night I got inducted into RIT’s chapter of Lambda Pi Eta, which is the honor society for the National Communication Association. It is another proud moment in my life that I will cherish. I was a member of the National Honor Society during high school, but to me this is a step higher because it is the National Honor Society for my studies, and I am one of 23 out of about 200 in my particular college on campus. I’m very proud to be a part of those numbers and to be a member of Lambda Pi Eta, but what makes these moments in my life even more special are the people that I get to share it with.

Usually my mom is always there to experience my accomplishments with me, but since she is now living in Colorado it is not always possible for her to be there in person. However, I know she is proud of me and wishing she could be here. However, my cousin John was able to be there at my side as I got inducted. John has always been more like the big brother I never had, so having him there meant just as much as when my mother is there.

The other people that I got to share the moment with were my professors. Most of the professors that I have taken classes with so far at RIT were there as well (most of them being from the College of Liberal Arts). Dr. Keith Jenkins, Public Speaking; Dr. Ki-Young Lee, Media Planning; Professor Mike Johansson, Copywriting and Visualization, PR Writing; and of course I can’t forget Dr. Neil Hair from Internet Marketing. Dr. Hair was also the keynote speaker of the night, and as usual he spoke about personal branding and social media. Even though I have had heard his speech numerous times, it is always a nice reminder to hear him talk about how we should market ourselves online and how it can either benefit or hurt us in the future. His five question approach is very helpful in any situation:

1.       Where am I now?

2.       Where do I want to be?

3.       How do I get there?

4.       Which way is best?

5.       How do I ensure safe arrival?

Since taking Dr. Hair’s class, I have been more careful about my Facebook posts and how I market myself on Twitter, ensuring that my LinkedIn profile is updated, and keeping track of my personal brand online. I know I still have a lot to learn, but I also know that I always have my RIT network to fall back on. I am blessed to have wonderful professors who are willing to give me the time of day and help me out anyway they can, and not necessarily just with class work either.

Yes, I feel like I have accomplished a lot in my short 21 years here on Earth and yes, I am very proud of everything I have accomplished. However, I know that I wouldn’t have been able to accomplish any of it without the strong support of those around me. My family, friends, work colleagues, and professors have all helped me tremendously. I look forward to seeing what the future has in store for not just myself, but for everyone I have come into contact with.

Leadership and Communication

Over the past few years, really since I joined the Army, I have come to know all kinds of leaders and leadership techniques. Some of them good, and some not so good. However, some of the best leadership that I have found are not my leaders in the Army. Don’t get me wrong, I have some awesome leadership to learn from at my Reserve Unit, but I like the style of leadership that I see from some of the management from my civilian job. Leadership is a characteristic that transfers over very easily from military to civilian or civilian to military, and all leaders have their good and bad characteristics. However, the style of leadership that I would like to convey when I get to that position more closely mirrors what I see every day in my civilian job.

Now I am starting to develop my own leadership style by taking on extra responsibilities. I recently took over as Team Captain for my store’s InFocus Team, which is the team that manages shrink and safety issues for each Home Depot store. I have only held this position for about three weeks so I am still in the learning phase, but I have awesome leadership who allow me to ask a million questions and present any idea I have without fear of said idea being stupid. I am basically being allowed to run with anything I come up with, but I am also constantly checking in with the managers above me to make sure that I am on the right track and that everything is still within proper standards.

Communication in leadership is critical, and the communication train must travel both up and down. It is important for subordinates to communicate with their leaders, starting with their immediate supervisor and going up. However, it is just as important for leaders at the top of the chain to ensure that each message travels all the way down. This is often where communication has the most problems in any company or organization. As the message travels down, it often does not get to the bottom of the chain and subordinates are feeling left out of the loop, which often leads to preventable mistakes being made and unnecessary penalties. This is what I would like to change when I am in future leadership positions. I have been under many awesome leaders, but the biggest problem I have seen with most is a lack of communication. Even though communication has never been my strongest characteristic, as I have always been shy and quiet, it is what I would most like to change. Not only for myself, but also for those who may be under me in the future, or for the leaders that I currently have and will have in the future.

Watching General Sarge Grow Through Social Media

Everyone is talking about how great social media is these days. I agree that social media is something exciting and has definitely produced some newsworthy stories. As I continue to learn the tricks and trades of social media by keeping up with the newest trends, I find myself meeting more people than I ever could have without the Internet and social networking. Networking has always been very important to a person’s success, but social networking online is quickly becoming necessary when it comes to job searching and getting your name known within your area of expertise.

I have an amazing example of what social networking can do for one person, or rather a family. Dr. Rus Jeffrey (@DrRus) has been active on Twitter for some time, but after he sent his youngest son off to Army Basic Training, Twitter became something much more than a place to get news updates and have conversations.

For a bit of background information, Ben, Dr. Rus’ youngest, has wanted to join the Army since he was a kid, and when he was 10 he got a trip to Build-A-Bear and built his own Army bear that he named Sarge. Sarge became a very well-loved bear, and last Christmas just before Ben was to ship to Basic Training, Sarge got a new uniform and a promotion to General! Since Ben has been at Basic, General Sarge has been kept busy as well with Dr. Rus taking pictures and blogging everyday about General Sarge's adventures. The blog can be read here. General Sarge has done some cool stuff!

General Sarge waiting for his human owner's return from Basic Training.

It was around this time that I really started paying attention to the post, especially when Dr. Rus mentioned something about his middle son, Ryan, being a Reservist assigned to the Webster Reserve Center. That's also where I go to drill, although we are assigned to different units within the same building.

I began following the blogs everyday, and that also got me thinking about how I might get involved with my own military bear. My mom gave me a bear the Christmas after I first signed my contract with an Army uniform (not from Build-A-Bear, but similar). My bear's name is Buddy, and I tweeted a picture to @DrRus saying something along the lines of "Buddy wants to meet General Sarge". We started talking back and forth through Twitter and a few days later, we met at Eastview Mall in Victor, NY for a couple shots and a new blog post for @GeneralSarge.

Buddy and me meeting General Sarge for this first time!

Dr. Rus and his wife Sandra are currently very busy trying to launch their Families First Campaign that started because of General Sarge. The non-profit is being set up for military families to help offset the costs of travelling to see a soldier's graduation from Basic Combat Training. It is a very important first step in every soldier's career to graduate from Basic, but travel for families can be very expensive, especially in today's economy. There are so many programs for military and their families out there, but none to help a family travel just to see their soldier's graduation. Families First is trying to launch itself to be there for families in need. I am very proud to have gotten to know Dr. Rus and Sandra and to play just a small part in the growth of General Sarge and the launching of the Families First Campaign. It has been exciting to watch General Sarge grow on Twitter and Facebook, and I know that there is much more planned in the future. I can't wait to see where else General Sarge will be taking Dr. Rus, Sandra, and their sons!

Buddy is very proud to be a part of this as well!

The Power of Social Media

I recently attended a Social Media and Communication Symposium at the Rochester Institute of Technology that included some great panels and amazing keynote speakers about the use of social media in journalism, marketing, advertising, and public relatioins. It was an eye opening experience for me personally, and it definitely brought out the entrepreneur in me. I've had a business idea in my head for awhile, and now I want nothing more than to make that idea a reality.

The first keynote speakers were two professors at RIT, one whom I had last quarter for Internet Marketing. Vic Perotti and Neil Hair talked about "Social Media Ubiquity". We are reaching a point where the majority of people are hitting social media saturation, and the time has come to decide which network works best and how to filter through the hundreds of messages we receive daily. We also have to learn to manage multiple identities across several networks, and have a contingency plan as back up, just in case. Dr. Neil Hair would be proud of me for developing my own contingency plan.

One of the other keynote speakers was Jeff Jarvis, who is a founder of Entertainment Weekly and who has authored several books about the use of social media and how the Internet has changed things. Some of his keypoints piggybacked the message from Dr. Hair and Dr. Perotti and echoed the overall message of the day. He discussed that anything published on the Internet is not a product, but rather a process. Articles and such on the Internet are transparent and at any stage can experience outside input and collaboration. Another major point of Jeff Jarvis' keynote speech was that we, as users of the Internet, need to be involved in creating a "Bill of Rights of Cyberspace" now, rather than wait for the government to get involved. We need to decide how the Internet is to be used. You can view Jeff Jarvis' proposed "Bill of Rights of Cyberspace" here. You can also follow @jeffjarvis on Twitter for continuous, and sometimes amusing, thoughts on the use of social media and the Internet.

There were two different tracks at the SMACS; one about the role of journalism in social media, and the other for marketing, advertising, and public relations. Being an APR Major, I attended the second track. All of the panels had different angles, but they all had a resounding message that was clear all day. Social media is the future for any and all businesses. I took way too many notes to describe in detail everything that I learned at the symposium, and this blog post would be way too long if I did. Maybe that is something that will be talked about at a later time as I begin my quest to develop my own brand and continue to open up my entrepreneur side.

The only thing I missed at SMACS was the keynote speech by Deirdre Breakenridge, due to an Arabic class that I couldn't miss at the same time. I was looking forward to hearing her speak because I am currently reading one of her books; "Putting the Public Back in Public Relations", but I did have the chance to meet her during the networking session after the conclusion of the symposium. That was awesome, and I also follow her on Twitter @dbreakenridge. She is another good person to learn tips and advice about using social media in PR. I am glad that I attended SMACS, I learned a lot, and I look forward to the next big event at RIT and continuing to learn more ways to develop my brand and build my future with each class I take.

Also, if you search (hashtag) #smacsRIT on Twitter, you will find many tweets from people that were posted all day throughout the event as we listened to the panels and keynote speeaches. It was fun to participate in, and even more to re-read.